LDR's

Long distance relationships suck. This is nothing new. I'm just reiterating it for the masses. Although I wouldn't say this blog reaches the masses. Whatever. They suck. There are bright spots though, and for these bright spots I am quite thankful.

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In fact, LDR's (long distance relationships) boast some advantages. It does make you value the spend time you do get to spend with your significant other, for example. It definitely helps you ease into a relationship as well (although, at the beginning you always wanna spend 24/7 with the other person). One of the best advantages though, is it really forces you to communicate well.

Now hear me out, no you don't get as much face to face time, but time spent just communicating is forced. Two of the biggest building blocks of relationships are communication and empathy (and with empathy comes patience, trust, etc). Now, allowing that patience and communication to grow has huge benefits for the later parts of relationships. You already have all that out of the way so you can move on to more important things.

Most people hold the belief that long distance relationships rarely ever work. One has to then ask them if their relationship won't work long distance, how can they feel comfortable saying that it would last if they lived in the same town (or together, I don't hate). Putting everything into perspective, yeah, LDR's suck. Majorly. But it's not like there isn't advantages. I talk regularly (or I try to) to my girlfriend on the phone and yeah we get to see each other about once a month for a few days. It's not much, but that time is when I'm happiest. I've had several people tell me I'm just a more pleasant person when I'm with her or when I know I'm going to see her soon. And you know what my secret is for having a good relationship? I ask myself one simple question: will it make her happy? If it doesn't or won't, what's the point. I get upset when she's upset and when she's happy it makes me happy. Win-win.

Anyways, this is my post on my long distance relationship, and as much as it sucks, I wouldn't trade this girl for anything in the world. She's the bomb to my diggity. Also, I am in no way saying that relationships where you never experience a LDR is not a legit relationship. This post is to say as much as they may suck, you gotta take the good parts out of it.

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Something that's kind of related to this is moving in with said boyfriend/girlfriend before getting married. I just want to say that my stance on this is very much against it. When people use the excuse 'you don't really know the person that well before living with them' is such complete crap. Honestly. Try spending time with them communicating and getting to actually know them and see how and where they live. It tells a lot about a person. Just because you might suck at reading how the other person is does not mean that you get to know them better once you move in together. Plus, where's the risk in that? When you love someone isn't nothing else supposed to matter? So why does it so much? I dunno. Just a little bit of an addition to this post that is kind of related. I guess it goes without saying I will not be living with my girlfriend when she moves down here to Edmonton. And why should I? There is absolutely no reason for it because we aren't married. Call me old fashioned (and I kind of am old fashioned so I don't take it badly) but if I end up marrying her, that will be the time to move in with her.

There. Done.